Whatever your best looks like for you is how you make a difference.
When we talk about making a difference, it’s your preference. You decide what different is. You decide what different looks like. You come to terms with how you plan on making different happen. You are the one mapping out a strategy to accomplish whatever “different” is in your life.
Understand that "your best" looks different for us all. Therefore, it is unnecessary for you to compare your best or the difference you make to what someone else is doing, has done, or plans to do.
Keep in mind that each day presents itself in a different way while seemingly appearing the same. It’s like riding a roller coaster. You know the track because you have viewed it from the ground. But now that you have sat down in the seat and are securing yourself for the ride, you have a different view of what is to come. Yet it is not until you begin moving forward that you begin to see differently again.
The point being made is that at any given moment of this journey called life, your best is what it is at that time. This is why it is so imperative that you see the view for yourself.
Don’t lose focus by looking away, or trying to keep up, or becoming discouraged because you feel you have fallen behind. NO! Remember: your best is what you are offering and the difference is the intention of that offering.
Being defined by the perception of what others have supposed your life to be can sometimes, oftentimes be out of alignment with who you are purposed to be.
You are unique. You are special. You are one of a kind. And the difference you make will be the same. Therefore, strive to be the best you and the best you will only get better as you begin to enjoy the ride.
I found myself in a place whee I had stopped doing those things that centered me. I no longer went to church. I no longer prayed. And it wasn't because of the people or the fact that I had lost faith. It was because of external barriers that impeded my ability to separate my happiness from theirs.
Those (that) barriers no longer exists in my life right now and therefore, I can go back to happy and I can do so without fear of losing the person I have been opened to become.
My newfound intellectual freedom and spiritual awakening no longer have to be denied as both are a part of who I am.
I can now wake in the morning and pray. I can now function in my daily activities without negative undertones. My level of positivity has since been increased and my thought are less angry.
I no longer need to ponder your presence.
Today it became very clear that you are here to do what was meant. To inspire, encourage, support, teach, instruct and demonstrate. You, Me, I AM - Happy!
Happy is simple. Find her. Believe in Her. Never Let Her Go.
When you embark on the path of your own healing, there are a few realizations that will shock you at first, but you will soon come to reason with. Don't shy away from your revelation. It will help you find your TRUTH.
You seek validation often forgetting that YOU are ENOUGH!
You seek love because you give it so freely, why shouldn't it be given in return
You seek approval not understanding that you have set yourself up to fear a false failure – the belief that unless all you seek happens, you have failed.
You seek success not realizing that you have yielded your power to negativity and other unqualified folk’s perception of you.
Your life is just that - YOUR LIFE! Learn to live it on your terms.
Validate yourself by loving you first and seeking the approval of your own conscious and watch how quickly success comes to you based on your perception of you - Mistakes and ALL!
Be Grateful for YOURSELF!
We often call ourselves praying for others with the intent of God seeing our unselfishness and thereby granting our requests that we so sincerely submitted right before the final AMEN. But let’s stop for a minute and think about just how selfish we really are.
We have taken it upon ourselves to assume that because we know someone that we can just randomly pray for them, without their permission, when it benefits us.
The true power of prayer does not lie in our assumption, it lies in our response to another’s request. When someone comes to you and ASKS you to “pray for me”, then and only then are you granted access to speak on their behalf to the power of their dreams, desires and aspirations.
And THAT is what I want you to understand about the power of your prayers and your dreams. Learn first to pray for yourself. Don’t be so quick to allow others into your spiritual place of comfort and peace. This is why so many of us get disappointed when we don’t see the proof of our prayers. It’s because someone else has heard us speak and took it upon themselves to pray for us not knowing the construct of our need. And it’s not that God is confused. No. It is because their good intention has become a barrier to our manifestation. Remember how the angel told Daniel that God heard his prayers on the first day but he was held up for 21 days and then the chief angel came to help? This is you. Your prayers are being heard. Your voice has power. Your dreams will come to pass. They just have to get around the well-intentioned prayers of others.
So my word to you is, until you know with an assurance the power of your prayers, only invite those into your realm of prayer that pray in agreeance with you and whom you have witnessed their own manifested power to fulfill their dreams. Those (These) are the ones that will respect the power of your prayer and rejoice in the accomplishment of your dreams.
And for those that feel that they just don’t know how to pray or what to ask for when you pray – Yes You Do! Just open your mouth (heart and mind) and just talk!
For what seemed to me to have been the longest time, I thought I had let go of the hand of the Most High. But in reality it wasn't until a particular situation that I realized that I had not been holding onto it at all.
Since before I could truly remember, I had been taught to conform to the traditions of religion and presented with false demonstrations of who God was by the actions of others. Not once did anyone ever ask me who or what I believed Him to be.
So when traditions began to fail and I saw the faith of the people falter, so did I. After being filled with His spirit, I let it go. I walked away for traditions. I walked away from people. I walked away from God.
And then one day when I could fight no more, physically tired, emotionally drained, mentally torn and spiritually empty, I fell down on my knees and prayed - FOR MYSELF!
THAT was the day I grabbed hold to the hand of God. THAT was the day I got to know Him for myself. THAT was the day He filled the emptiness with a love and a peace so pure that every day I sit in amazement of His power.
Let others say what they will about your walk with your higher power and in no way be offended by their opinion. Hold fast to the hand of the one that has designed your destiny and let no man dead or alive cause you to loosen your grip!
Your relationship with your higher power should be based on, rooted in, and dependent upon what YOU need for YOURSELF. Get a Grip and don't let go
Even though we know that tomorrow is not promised, that knowledge does not diminish our hope that we will see it, be a part of it, and live it when it does.
This is hope!
It is not based on whimsical desire or far-fetched fantasy or a misguided sense of entitlement or privilege. No. It is based on our unquenchable belief that - tomorrow will come.
Call us all naive to take for granted that we will all move forward into tomorrow, but that is just the subconsciousness of mankind to continue in hope without truly understanding the power of belief.
There is no wrong or right - There just IS! and when is occurs and today becomes tomorrow and you begin to live for today, do so with the knowledge that tomorrow will come again and today will be the lesson that guides you through tomorrow and that the lesson is a blessing that keeps you hoping forward.
Every day there is some inkling of terror, world wars, or global disaster and I often wonder - What if?
What if the nations stop fighting against each other and instead joined together with one another to heal humanity as a whole?
What would happen if the world's most brilliant scientist, mathematicians, biologist and immunologist joined forces to cure all mankind instead of just the few?
What would it be like to awaken every day hereafter without threat of anything? No bombs dropping, no masses dying and no diseases to cure.
YEAH! I know! Keep dreaming. But let’s be real. The only reason our "what ifs" are not our reality is because we as a people don't voice our opinions, give our thoughts, or stand for justice as a UNITED front. Not backing down, not giving up, and not giving in.
Why should “what if” even be an option when speaking up is not that hard to do, especially when you won’t be doing it alone.
From body image to sexual desire, energy to tolerance to pain, illness can get in the way of many parts of a relationship. If you have lupus, take steps to protect and nurture this important part of your life and well being.
Here are some strategies that have worked for others and that you might want to try:
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How can a person be expected to embrace independence when they've never been let go?
How can a person experience life when they've not been allowed to live?
In order to remain outspoken, you have to let your voice be heard. In order to maintain confidence in your position, you sometimes have to be blunt with your response.
Being independent doesn't mean you are disrespectful, arrogant or rude. It just means that you are appreciative of correction, speaking with facts and ignoring the negativity. It means that you are mature enough to know that everyone has an opinion that doesn't necessarily pertain to you. It means that you are grown (or growing) enough to understand that evolution is real and things change in time. It means that your core values, those characteristics that make you you, are the values in which your independence derives from.
So, the next time you stand on the scale and the numbers aren't moving in the direction you want or you ride on the bus and watch the cars go by or you pass up Nordstrom, Macy's, Lula Roe or Kate Spade for Red, White and Blue, Goodwill, Thrift USA or Five Below, carry yourself with dignity and pride knowing that you are surviving on your own merit and in accordance to your pockets, get home, stand in front of the mirror and see the reflection staring back at you and smile, because no one outside of you two knows the difference, because YOU DO YOU WELL! Because this moment, this you right here, is what makes your independence shine bright in you!
Sitting in the doctor's office listening to him explain to me why I was beyond tired, why my bones hurt, why I had a never-ending headache and why all of these symptoms and more were slowly killing me - I was numb!
How was I supposed to feel? Here I am being diagnosed with a disease that I had never heard of and then being told that if I wanted to live longer everything about my life and lifestyle would have to change immediately! It was all so unbelievably depressing.
For the longest time I just drifted - waiting! Waiting for something to happen. Waiting for the sadness to disappear. Just Waiting! and then one day I got tired of waiting and started doing!
It took me 5 years after my diagnosis to get myself together and realize that I wasn't ready to give up and I certainly wasn't ready to die.
Because of the action I took then I am now able to help others cope with life changing unpleasant events. As a team, we work together to prepare and equip them with the necessary tools and resources designed to alleviate the press and the pain.
How do I do this?
First, I tell my story - as often as the opportunity presents itself. I refuse to be a victim of a disease that I know nothing about!
Second, I created a resource tool designed to help the Lupus Survivor understand and navigate their way to living their best life despite the diagnosis based on experience and expertise.
Third, I made my time available to the public.
You can read all about how I gathered up the strength to overcome denial and depression and began taking control of my health and well-being so I could move forward with learning to live my best life in my book - Learning to Live Healthy - A Lupus Survivor's Story.
And when you are ready to take charge of your own health, you can purchase the interactive workbook - Learning to Live Healthy- The Workbook. This 5 point interactive workbook will become an asset to your learning process. The activities provide a personalized guide in the development of specific coping skills and techniques that will be beneficial to your healthy lifestyle and is available for digital download (Click here).
And finally, if you just want to have a conversation you can schedule a COMPLIMENTARY call with me at www.TalkTimeWithMicheleMikkiJones.as.me
Whichever way you choose to be informed and aware is a step in the right direction for your health and well-being.
Remember: You are your first line of defense and the creator of your plan of self-care. I am a resources to accompany you along your journey.
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