Sometimes we have to just step back, sit down and listen. God is trying to tell you something and you are in no position to hear!
One of the key reasons we don't stop to listen is FEAR! We can become so consumed by the things that we have done and those which have been done to us that we become stagnate in our purpose or we have no clue to what our purpose is.
One of the things that I have so diligent learned from the fear of my past is to forego excuses and reach. Sometimes that mean going back and pulling from those hard learned lessons, restructuring that energy into a positive forward motion. I got out of my feelings about the trauma by realizing that the majority harm that I suffered was at the hands of someone else and none of it was not my fault. I no longer take it in as negative and have learned to tell my story from my perspective.
Stop limiting yourself with that negative condensation of fear. Oh, they not gonna like me. Oh, they're going to be mad at me. Oh, guess what? They'd been mad at you, one because you survived what was meant to destroy you. You were supposed to have completed the attempted suicide. You were supposed to be way out there on drugs. Your liver is supposed to be given out from all the alcohol that you consume. And two, because they haven't learned how.
Stop living in their interpretation of who or what you are supposed to be. Begin positively seeing fear as forgoing the excuses, yours and other people's, and reaching beyond. Grab, hold and never let go.
Another key reason we don't stop to listen is UNFORGIVENESS! We have to learn to forgive first ourselves and then others. We can sometimes be our own worst enemy. Fighting to fit in so that we won't stand out as different. Struggling to maintain a facade' that doesn't reflect the worth or value of who we are. Hiding from our truth. We have to stop doing this to ourselves!
If you ask me how to do either of these vital lifesaving things (redefining fear and accepting self-forgiveness) I will tell you to:
#1 Pray - to whomever helps you to reach a place of calm and peace that allows you to grow in grace and
#2 Practice the Principles of your A B C's - Attitude Behavior and Change. Know that the way you think influences your action that comes before your response.
That's what I'm gonna tell you because that's how I'm Learning to Live Healthy and Survive!
As a writer in several anthologies (collaborative book projects) I can attest that at times there is a feeling of "has my story been lost among the rest?" and I can honestly answer - NO!
When is comes to speaking your voice, that is exactly what it is - YOUR VOICE! and even though you may feel as though no one is listening or that people have not heard you - they are and they have.
The visionary (coordinator ) of Unchain My Legacy sent out an announcement and it simply said that when she opened her email, this is what she read:
"We are pleased to announce that your books, Unchain Me Mama, and Unchain My Legacy, are winners in the 2018 IAN Book of the Year Awards!
When judging completed, both books were selected as finalists in the “Parenting/Family/Relationships” category."
That's right! Not only are we (collectively) #1 Best Selling Authors, we are also AWARD WINNING AUTHORS!
So, when you begin to feel that your work is in vain, know that someone, somewhere is watching and in due season your reward will be revealed. Hold tight! Don't let go! Reach beyond the break and stay your purposeful course. We See You! even when you don't know we are looking.
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Not here to counsel you, not claiming to know all the answers, not trying to change your mind, not trying to direct your path. Here to listen, here to share, here to let you know that a Sista cares.